Best advice I ever got was an old friend of mine, a black friend, who said you have to go the way your blood beats. If you don’t live the only life you have, you won’t live some other life, you won’t live any life at all. That’s the only advice you can give anybody. And it’s not advice, it’s an observation.
It’s Actually Happening! Update on my Microfinance Volunteer Adventure
James Baldwin’s observation applies perfectly to the next chapter in my life. As I alluded to in my previous post on Microfinance ($2/day) and on the one announcing my career change (aligning your spending) I am making major changes in my life. Part of my inspiration for this definitely comes from Mo, a good friend who moved to Turkey to become an English teacher and who now lives in Japan. She has documented her travels over at Travels of Mo. The other part of my inspiration is listening to my inner curiosity more closely.
How I Found Costa Rica and Agreed to It
I’m planning on quitting my job and potentially being unemployed for a 12 month sabbatical. I lined up a microfinance institution (MFI) volunteer opportunity in Costa Rica through NGOAbroad and am scheduled to start in October, five months from now. When I first found this opportunity it felt too good to be true. Costa Rica is expat heaven, a tourist destination, and has a great medical system. For a moment I wondered whether I would actually have anything to contribute because the country is doing much better than others in South America. Continue reading “12 Month Sabbatical – Update on my Microfinance Adventure”
According to Portfolios of the Poor written by a leading group of researchers, 40% of the world’s 7 billion people live on less than $2 a day. What makes matters worse is the irregularity of their income. If they knew they were going to earn $2 every day it would be possible to build a budget around it. But they don’t know. During harvest season they may have plenty to eat and even be able to save. At other times they may have to live on one meal a day and borrow to make ends meet. How can someone deal with those massive changes in income? To make things even more dire are expensive emergencies, such as an illness, a burial, or a whole host of other things. Continue reading “How Do You Live on $2 a Day? – How the World’s Poor Manage their Finances”
Should I change from monthly mortgage payments to biweekly mortgage payments?
Should I co-sign for a loan, and can I protect myself?
If my retirement accounts are fully funded, how should I invest the rest of my cash?
But it was difficult to find questions like the ones I ask about money and finances. I think my questions are probably more like social science research theses than blogging friendly questions. For example, I often wonder about the questions below:
How do I reconcile the fact I want more and the fact that by being a citizen of a developed country I have more than 80% of the world’s population?
Why would someone tie themselves to a job they dislike with golden handcuffs like a new car every year and a mortgage that keeps them up at night?
Is it possible to use capitalism in a way that doesn’t destroy the environment and ourselves in the process? Maybe it’s something along the lines of B Corporations, which aim to benefit the shareholder, employee, customer, and community.
Why do women earn less? Why does asking for a review feel more difficult than giving a professional presentation completely naked?
How is longstanding wage stagnation related to Trump’s election?
After my quick web search I am happy to say that the internet has space for me. I am here to discuss they many existential money questions I have. In How To Read a Book the authors state that the big questions are not really answerable. The answer lies in the discussion itself. By talking about the issues we can outline where we stand.
The Soul of Money by Lynne Twist is not your typical personal finance book. It does not go into how to get out of debt or where to put your retirement investments. Instead, it is a thoughtful book that reminds us that we already have enough. We have probably all heard that the endless pursuit of more does not lead to an enjoyed life. It only leads to a need for more. The issue for many of us is that we forget this simple idea, especially when we listen too closely to the consumerism in society. Twist shares her transformation away from the mindless pursuit of more towards a more aligned lifestyle for herself and her family.Continue reading “Sufficiency and your True North – Celebrating Enough”
Personal finances encompass your entire relationship with money, that includes giving to charity. We all routinely receive requests to be charitable. Most of us probably contribute to causes we believe in, even if it’s only sporadically. According to Charity Navigator in 2014 total giving was $300 billion, or about 2% of US GDP. This is the equivalent of the GDP of all of South Africa in 2009. That’s impressive. We give so much each year that we could fund an entire country with a population of 49 million people. You can find a detailed report of what charities we give to here.
Why do we give?
Simply put, we give because it feels good to spend money on other people. Eric Baker’s article What’s one way where money definitely brings happiness? shares the psychological benefits of giving. The article describes a survey conducted by the Harvard Business Review on people’s happiness after receiving a profit sharing bonus from their company. They found that those who spent the bonus on charities or gifts for others showed increased happiness for longer than those who only spent it on themselves or bills.
My office is celebrating International Women’s Day next week and I am very ambivalent about the whole holiday. On one end, it’s nice to be celebrated, on the other, I’m uncertain about what we’re celebrating…
This holiday has been recognized in some fashion as far back as 1907. The United Nations declared it an official holiday in 1975. The movement was initiated by labor parties to improve the working conditions for women. To this day the celebration continues to be focused on women who work outside the home. At one point the holiday was actually known as “International Working Women’s Day”. Throughout the past century the holiday was very heavily celebrated in communist and socialist countries, this makes sense since that type of government extols the virtues of the proletariat. After the fall of the Soviet Union some countries abandoned the practice, although since then many have resumed it.
A part of me feels uncomfortable with “International Women’s Day” because it casts women as oppressed, as victims of society. This may be true for many women across the country and the world, but it does not ring true for me or many of my college-educated friends. Or at least it doesn’t seem to be true. How can we know whether there is economic parity without access to our coworkers’ income? In a Huffington Post article First Lady Michelle Obama says it’s hard to think about salary and remember the pervading wage gap when taking a new job. All I can see is that I am doing much better than my mother was at my age or than my cousins back in Mexico. All I know is that I feel free; I am financially independent of a man, that’s much more than my mom or my grandma had at my age.
This feeling is best described by Virginia Woolf in “A Room of One’s Own” when she describes the freedom she felt after receiving an annual stipend from an inheritance:
“No force in the world can take from me my 500 pounds. Food, house and clothing are mine forever. Therefore not merely do effort and labour cease, but also hatred and bitterness. I need not hate any man; he cannot hurt me. I need not flatter any man; he has nothing to give me. So imperceptibly I found myself adopting a new attitude towards the other half of the human race.”
When I first read A Room of One’s Own I felt so excited to recognize that I have the freedom Woolf talks about. I felt excited to be part of progress as a woman who was enjoying freedoms that would’ve astonished the women of 100 years ago. I am a single woman in my late twenties, daughter of immigrants with my own apartment and car. I remember reading this passage to my mom with so much pride and happiness. I shared with her that my fridge was not working and that I had the money to buy myself a new one. A few years ago a broken fridge would have been an emergency, but at this time it felt gratifying to see that my well stocked emergency fund was serving its purpose. My mom laughed and agreed, she also suggested I start building myself a vacation fund. I am building a life that combines pleasure, meaning, and using my strengths; according to positive psychologist Tal Ben-Shahar these are the key ingredients for happiness. I do not spend time and energy resenting men or those from more privileged backgrounds than my own. At the same time, I acknowledge how lucky I am to have been born in the US and not in Mexico, where I would have had a lot less opportunities.
Everyone is blessed with self-agency. We can all decide what we focus on, be it inequality or gratitude for what we do have. This is different than complacency or being a doormat. A few months ago I had to go against my nature and repeatedly ask my manager for an overdue performance review along with a salary review. It felt very uncomfortable to have this conversation and respectfully persist. I would not have done it without the encouragement of a very good friend and mentor. My mentor is a woman who has done well for herself in her career in corporate America.
I once complained to her that I had not received a raise in the 18 months I had been in my position. She pointed out that the fact I was not getting a raise was not personal, rather it was a result of me not asking for it and that most companies do not actively try to increase their expenses. Whether it was right or wrong of my company to postpone my performance review was irrelevant. I needed to stand up for myself. Maybe I felt so uncomfortable having this conversation with my boss because I am a woman, but maybe this conversation is difficult for everyone regardless of gender. I am the first one in my family to work at a corporation, so I am very grateful to have met a mentor to help me navigate this area of my life.
In the not too distant past women were much more openly excluded from economic self-sufficiency. In the first chapter of A Room of One’s Own Woolf compares a lavish meal at the men’s college against a meager one at the women’s college where she was to present a lecture. After dinner she points this out to her host who shares with Woolf the difficulties of raising funds for a women’s college. Men are not too interested and most women have no money to give. Especially since married women in the UK were not allowed ownership of their own money until 1870. That is a mere 146 years ago. True, at the rate we’re going we many not reach parity for another 117 years, but today there are countless women like myself enjoying financial self-sufficiency. It is the kind of self-sufficiency that Woolf describes as essential for creativity. It is definitely not perfect, but it’s progress. Just like I take it for granted that a married woman can own her own property I hope to see my daughter, or at least granddaughter, take it for granted that she will earn equal pay for equal work.